All the research points back to 2 basics. 1) Respect 2) Sex
Your spouse wants to be treated like a god or goddess. Their opinions, decisions, style, body, you name it. Remember when you were dating and interesting in everything they said, and ready to jump in the sack every 20 minutes for it? That's why they married you, and now, the lack thereof is why they're irritated with you (and me).
You can treat someone like a god or goddess and respectfully disagree with them, or ask them to do things not quite so glamorous. It takes tact and skill (for which I sorely lack). But, in theory, that's what it takes.
Why do you think all those porn sites are so successful? Think it's all singles on those sites? Not with membership numbers I've seen.
Have no time or energy with little kids running around, and a job too? Everyone needs physical touch and affection to feel secure and sane, not just your baby. It's that physical intimacy that reconnects you with your spouse and allows both of you to forget the piles of work sitting downstairs. When you get back to it, you'll be better able to focus and prioritize, and complete it faster than before.
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